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i need a honest opinion and feedback... i'm 27 this year and chinese
when you guys attend a chinese wedding, do you label your names on the red packets? i mean like normally when you arrive, you'll go to the reception area, sign in and drop your red packets into those collection boxes, do you actually label your names at the back of the red packets?
no one actually taught me to do that... but i was questioned by my friend who got married and she accused me of not giving a red packet for her wedding banquet... she said she searched the boxes but didn't found my name and she had difficulties answering to her husband who was disappointed that one of her friends turned up without a red packet. she asked if i labelled my red packet and i was quite surprised... i said no and i told her that no one ever taught me to label my name, even my mum didn't taught me that...
she also said that it's not the money part but as a significance of congratulation... i did include a photoframe which i gave her during the wedding dinner but she said she was disappointed that i gave her that only... she also mentioned that the wedding dinner was very expensive and asked for my understanding. (it was at Raffles Hotel and i did dropped in a red packet without my name labelled behind plus the photoframe)
then she claimed that all her guests labelled their red packets so next time, when my friend attends their weddings, she will know how much to put inside the "ang pow".
i would like to ask if it's a practice to label your red packets for weddings... cos' i was not taught so...
Edited by novelltie 19 Aug `08, 12:50AM
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Originally posted by novelltie:
i need a honest opinion and feedback... i'm 27 this year and chinese
when you guys attend a chinese wedding, do you label your names on the red packets? i mean like normally when you arrive, you'll go to the reception area, sign in and drop your red packets into those collection boxes, do you actually label your names at the back of the red packets?
no one actually taught me to do that... but i was questioned by my friend who got married and she accused me of not giving a red packet for her wedding banquet... she said she searched the boxes but didn't found my name and she had difficulties answering to her husband who was disappointed that one of her friends turned up without a red packet. she asked if i labelled my red packet and i was quite surprised... i said no and i told her that no one ever taught me to label my name, even my mum didn't taught me that...
she also said that it's not the money part but as a significance of congratulation... i did include a photoframe which i gave her during the wedding dinner but she said she was disappointed that i gave her that only... and the wedding dinner was very expensive. (it was at Raffles Hotel)
then she claimed that all her guests labelled their red packets so next time, when my friend attends their weddings, she will know how much to put inside the "ang pow".
i would like to ask if it's a practice to label your red packets for weddings... cos' i was not taught so...
if all her guests, except you, labelled their red packets, then the only one without a label would be yours, right ? ...
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Originally posted by novelltie:
the amazing thing is they are quite well to do... both are professionals... quite rich and the husband is quite a young big shot with one of Singapore's largest firms. (don't want to name it to protect their identities)
i was quite sad though.
you should be sad ..... wonderful friends you have .....
time to look for new ones ....
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Originally posted by Cool-gal:
i think ur fren is one of a kind.
how can ask this kind of qtion one??
so money face lor.
even if didnt find ur ang pao inside, oso cannot qtion in such way.
no basic courtesy lor
its a must to input name actually, unless u're giving like 20bucks??
well i think there nothing wrong w giving $20 if its not in the ability for the guest to give more.
since the couple wana invite people. they shd be prepared to just break even or even spend some.
to expect their guests to give any amount is absurb. no one asked to be invited.
The reason the couple invites the guests is to share their joy with their family and friends... not inviting their family and frens to make a profit or share in the expenses.
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Originally posted by Cool-gal:
i think ur fren is one of a kind.
how can ask this kind of qtion one??
so money face lor.
even if didnt find ur ang pao inside, oso cannot qtion in such way.
no basic courtesy lor
its a must to input name actually, unless u're giving like 20bucks??
so it's a must to put my name? but seriously, no one taught me that.
Edited by novelltie 19 Aug `08, 12:51AM
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seriously, there is no rule whether to put label your name behind the red packet. sometimes people just forget. its really up to the individual.
for you, since no one taught you that then i think you just forget about it and move on, it is not as if you purposely did not write your name. your friend is just being petty about it.
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